Date yourself first.
Find your ideal partner by finding yourself first: by understanding who you are, what you want and who you want it with.
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Attraction is common. Peace is rare.
Dating apps help you choose who you're attracted to. Contemplate helps you choose who you'll be peaceful with. Chemistry can start a relationship, but only peace can keep it going.
- Understand yourself much better
- Define your ideal partner profile and find that right person
- Maintain a healthy, long-term relationship with your partner
Is it for you?
This is for you if you're…
- You're fed up with meaningless dating
- You're looking for a long-term, purposeful relationship
- You're not clear how to find the right person
- You've ended up with the wrong person in the past
You will share about 1.5 billion moments with your partner. Go about it the right way.
The approach
Inside to outside.
A meaningful relationship does not start with finding the right person. It starts with finding yourself first. An 8-week “Find yourself” journey, in three steps:
Find yourself
Weeks 1 and 2: build self-awareness with the Contemplate framework.
Define yourself
Weeks 3 to 5: define your priorities and values.
Define your partner
Weeks 6 to 8: define the priorities and values of your partner.
After week 8
Find a friend, then a partner.
- You start looking for that right person.
- You look beyond the superficial and find a deeper connection.
- You check whether the other person is aligned with your values. At this stage, you're only looking for a friend, not a partner.
- You find that right person: your friend. Maybe more than one.
- You decide whether that person is also a good fit for you as a partner.
Questions
Common questions.
How does the Dating program work?
Our Venus Dating program focuses entirely on internal clarity before external integration. By understanding precisely what makes you peaceful—instead of what merely excites you temporarily—you can deliberately identify and build a relationship aligned with true fulfillment.
Is the Dating program a dating app or a matchmaking service?
Neither. It's an 8-week training that helps you get clear on yourself first — your values, priorities, and what a peaceful relationship looks like — so you can then recognise and choose the right partner on your own.
Find your ideal partner, and keep them close.
The Contemplate principles behind the dating programme are part of the membership.